“Stop Over Thinking”. It’s easy to say but harder and harder to do, it seems. In today’s fast paced environment at times its natural to err on the side of getting so in your head that you lose perspective, yet problem solving is a crucial skill that engages the mind to work through obstacles that stand between you and your goals. How do we then shift gears, disengage from the hyper-rational and oft times reactive mind, and tap into another ...

“I’ll get by with a little help from my friends” written by the Beatles and sung so fiercely by Joe Cocker is an anthem we need right about now.

We all have an ally that can supply us with key insights and information we could use during a stressful economy and more, but often isn’t consulted. This ally can even monitor your health, relationships and finances during a yoyo marketplace with a clear eye and show you the deepest truth in ...

If you are troubled by depression, anxiety, irritability, poor sleep, memory loss, or cravings, your stressful thoughts and emotions may not be the main reason for your condition. In fact, your problems may not be in your head at all but in your neck, according to nurse practitioner and author Karilee Shames.

In an interview Shames told me that many of the “brain” problems women are challenged with today actually start with the Thyroid. Shames explains” When your thyroid is too ...

Many surveys have revealed that above the fear of death and disease is the fear of standing in front of a crowd. Millions of people are terrified of the spotlight, whether it’s speaking to a large crowd with a microphone or at a dinner table of four.

I recently attended a convention for public speakers and actually learned that there is a word for being afraid to speak to a group. It’s called glossophobia, which comes from the Greek glōssa, meaning ...

A tiny butterfly-shaped gland at the base of your neck can make your life Heaven or Hell.

It’s called the Thyroid, the chief of our endocrine system, which directs our entire metabolism. It secretes a hormone that acts as the “gas pedal” for all of our bodily organs and activities, especially the brain. If you are a person with low thyroid you could be suffering from symptoms of low temperature, slow movements, low heart rate, slow digestion, slow speech, poor sleep, ...

In relationships we are always at a choice point, to assume and blame or tell the truth about how we are feeling and what we need.

When you see the dishes piled up in the sink, or your partner is running late or you didn’t get the kiss back you expected, before you assume anything ask yourself:

1-   Do I have the facts and am I making an unfound assumption?

2-   Do I want to win and prove my point that my assumption ...

When you were watching TV last Sunday night and heard that President Obama had a national security announcement, did you notice what was happening in your body?

For instance did your palms begin to sweat, or did your shoulders get tight or did your thoughts begin to race with scary scenarios?

With the amount of traumatic information we watch, read and listen to everyday we are exposed to more threatening events and that means our bodies never stop working to anticipate, avoid ...

I saw Lady Gaga introduce her new song, “Judas,” on Ellen the other day and during her interview she focused on what she always does: telling others to love themselves.

“Love who you are” is her mantra and she shares advice like,

“Start your day with five minutes of having compassionate thoughts about yourself.” Her Yoga teacher taught her that and she says it works. In my book I included similar daily ritual suggestions and what she preaches is positive for today’s ...

Yesterday I posted a blog,” Who’s the Sperm or Egg in Your Home” where I offered the sperm and egg metaphor to help couples understand their relationship dynamic not from masculine and feminine labels and behaviors but from an energy perspective since we are all energy and we each have a unique energy system that feels, broadcasts and receives differently in every moment.

I received much feedback about this concept but the ones that intrigued me the most were inquiries about ...

All men always act like Martians and all women always act like Venusians, right? Wrong.

Of course men and women are different but to always rely on gender specific labels in relationships can also be a way to justify bad behavior and poor communication. ” Oh yeah all men don’t feel, women feel too much, men run to caves, women can’t receive, that’s just the way it is. They just can’t help it.”  I find as a relationship counselor that this ...

Pablo Picasso said, “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he or she grows up.”  There’s a telling story about a psychologist interviewing young children. He asked a classroom full of four-year-olds, “Who here is an artist, a singer, a dancer?” Every child in the room responded enthusiastically, “I am!” In contrast, when 16-year-olds were asked the same questions, only a small number of them responded affirmatively. Their innate creative spirit had been ...

Last week a paramedic, who was thrilled to be off of work and travel to LA to go see his baseball team play, is now in the hospital fighting for his life.

He was innocently walking to his car when he was attacked by a couple of “rival fans” for no reason other then he was wearing the wrong hat.  Police said the two attackers began taunting three men in Giants gear with expletives as thousands of baseball fans left the ...

Power Move One:  Know When to Disengage

It is of utmost importance to recognize when you’ve entered into a no win situation and have a strategy that allows you to instantly get out and be at choice rather than in reaction. You can consciously step back and disengage from any situation that rattles your cage with one simple internal move.

Power Move One – When you get stuck remind yourself, “I am going to disengage and step back and give this situation ...

Many folks worldwide are personally struggling with the devastation, loss of lives and possible nuclear meltdowns happening in Japan.

It’s hard not to feel horror, sadness, anger and more while watching other members of our global family without water, missing family members and in the firing line of a nuclear meltdown.

What’s also important is to find ways to make sure you do not over stress your body, family, relationships and work. It’s a fine balancing act to focus on what we ...

Boy have we gotten busy with work. Our reasons range from economic necessity to expressing our inner voice’s mission to having a creative inspiration inside that just needs to be manifested NOW. Either way, with the ability to access our computers 24/7 many of us at times forget to balance our work time with our personal time for exercise, family time, spiritual practices, relaxation and plain fun. Of course when a project that excites us or sparks our life’s mission ...

Do I know what I am here to do? Is my purpose driven by something I heard from someone else or from a divine spirit or a feeling inside? Am I living a life struggling to achieve what someone else – parent, friends, boss, or coach – told me what my purpose was/is ?

This has been a question for practically anybody who has searched for life’s deeper meaning, because so often others actually do have other agendas that influence us. ...

Although the word “mojo” is defined often as a type of magical charm, its origins can be traced to the African Congo where “moyo” means soul or life force. in general use “mojo” also means that special spark of creative energy between people.

My work with individuals and couples over the years has convinced me that any two people can connect on any combination of levels or “identities”. Let’s face it: some people form relationships in which the mojo works on ...

Many years ago I heard the phrase “Fake it till you make it” and was always intrigued by it. It’s the kind of phrase that can be interpreted and analyzed in many ways. Although I get the power of speaking as if you already have what you want in your life I, like many others, have had problems with the word fake, which is defined as an imposter or sham.

I know the person who said it had the intention to ...