10 Questions To Help You Find Your Purpose

We’ve all had the experience of making a firm resolution to reach a goal, only to lose the initial enthusiasm and fall off track.

Personally, I know how easy it is for me to get distracted or pulled in another direction. So I’ve found that my strongest motivator is to remember my higher purpose. While making a decision or gearing up for an important project, this helps me to draw on all my energy with clear intent, total awareness and inspiration.

Bottom line: Your intention and purpose can keep you on track, moving you in the direction you really want. Checking in with your purpose provides you with a rock-solid foundation from which to consciously create your life.

Why Your Purpose Doesn’t Feel Real

Many people share with me that they think they know what their purpose is, but aren’t 100% sure. That’s because it’s just in their minds, with no feeling or passion connected with it.

I find that when we “embody” our purpose, and feel it alive inside of our whole being, not just our mind, we are truly connected to it. That’s when it takes hold in our life. To me, this is the true law of attraction.

I used to try to “find my purpose” through thinking and talking myself into action — but my body and spirit just weren’t in harmony with my thoughts. My mind desired something, but something inside of me didn’t. Or my instincts said to do something, but my mind stopped it. Listening to my body and its feelings, and trusting my inner voice, always led me to the right place at the right time.

10 Questions To Clarify Your Purpose

The following prompts will help you discover your life purpose by evoking images, which are profoundly personal messages from your unconscious.

You can choose to read the questions out loud, or listen to this audio of my voice with accompanying music. To get started, take a few belly breaths, breathing way down to fill the bowl of your pelvis with breath.

After you read or hear each question, close your eyes and listen inwardly for an answer. Then, open your eyes and say aloud or write down the first thought, symbol or picture that comes to mind. Stay open and curious. The words, images and sounds that result may surprise you.

Repeat this process for each question, one at a time. Remember to breathe in as you read, then close your eyes and breathe out. Continue breathing and wait until something comes, then open your eyes and note or say what came.

  1. What is my purpose for being alive right now?
  2. What is uniquely valuable about me?
  3. What do I do that serves and helps others?
  4. What am I most passionate about in my life?
  5. How, when and where do I express my purpose through my health?
  6. How, when and where do I express my purpose in my relationships?
  7. How, when and where do I best express my purpose in my career?
  8. Where in my life am I aligned with my purpose?
  9. Where in my life am I not aligned with my purpose?
  10. What actions can I take to be more aligned with my purpose?

What did you discover? Perhaps you felt a place in yourself that wants to make a deeper commitment to being a more loving person. Or maybe you received a clear message to make a big change in your life.

As you move through your day today, maintain an awareness of your answers to these very important questions.

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Body Appreciation Day!

I know at times it’s tough to appreciate your body for its true brilliance and how much it does it for you.

You may have concerns about how it looks, or you may not like how it performs in certain situations or possibly not like it because of pain you feel from living in it.

You might unconsciously use it to stuff emotions and expressions you are afraid to share with others and even have a negative, unfriendly vocabulary towards it, saying things like, “I could just kick myself for doing that,” or, “That guy gives me a head ache,” or, “This job makes me sick and is a big pain in the neck?”

Guess what? Your body feels everything you think and say. All your experience and knowledge, your pain and joy, your forgotten secrets and your deepest truths, get recorded in the cellular library of your flesh.

That’s why I suggest taking time to appreciate all your body does for you, and not ignore or worse, abuse it. Feed it with good thoughts, words and intentions.

Whatever relationship you have with your body, remember that is has been with you since day one. It contains great wisdom for you to access if you take the time to listen to it. In a way, it’s your personal Google. Use it and appreciate its brilliance. It’s your first and closest ally.

So whatever your relationship is with your body, today I recommend you spend some time to appreciate it and learn something about yourself,  from doing that.

Here’s how:

Thank your body throughout the day and love it exactly as it is.
Talk to it and give it permission to relax today.
Attend to any parts that are active or tight, and send love especially to those areas and places in your body that you have felt unhappy with or embarrassed about.
Give your body positive affirmations such as, “I love my shoulders and appreciate all that they have carried for me. I now release them and see them relaxed and happy.”
Give those body parts even more love with touch and massage.

Enjoy this one- minute video to help you celebrate and appreciate your “friend” today. You AND your body will be happy you did.



Don’t Worry. Make an Expansive Move, and Be Happy

“A living body is not a fixed thing but a flowing event, like a flame or a whirlpool.

-Alan Watts

Right now, whether you are aware of it or not, your body is adjusting to meet the demands of the moment. That might mean shifting positions in your seat to get more comfortable, turning the page of this book when you are ready, or reaching for your water bottle because you are thirsty. Your body is intelligent enough to react and adjust, refine and habituate, and find some semblance of balance in any scenario. Your body is always doing its thing whether you choose to listen to it, or not.

What’s miraculous about us as human beings is that we have the ability to make a choice in every moment, to adapt and move with our body, ignore, resist, or even move against it.

Amy Cuddy shows us how we can create more happiness and less stress through being aware of our body movements. In Cuddy’s TED talk, she claims, “Our body language reveals that we can change our own body chemistry—simply by changing body positions.” Along with Assistant Professor Dana Carney of UC Berkeley, Cuddy conducted a study called Physical Motion and Performance. They worked with sixty-six Columbia University students and found that expansive, open movements affect hormone levels. She noted, “Power posing such as raising the arms above the head as when a player scores a touchdown, increases testosterone and decreases cortisol, the stress hormone. Contracted movements, on the other hand, diminish your personal power and, in turn, your effectiveness.”

Remember this when you feel at your wits’ end, down in the dumps, or ready to give up. Get out of your head and into your body as quickly as possible. Start observing your body, breathe, move, lift your arms up and wave your hands, open up your chest real wide, shake that tail feather, and watch your mood shift almost instantly. Don’t worry. Make an expansive move and be happy. 

Enjoy this one minute video on movement  awareness


Checking With Your Body First for Answers

Free will is the ability we have as humans to make choices that are not determined by just external circumstances. We can increase both the reach and effectiveness of our free will when we become keenly aware of where we put our attention.

In the following exercise, you will sample a tangible experience of a body-first vs. mind first approach.

Imagine that you are sitting at the beach watching the waves rise and fall a few feet before you. Hear the ocean waves as they crash on the beach and smell the salty air, feel the sweet ocean breeze on your skin, see the setting sun spray color across the sky.

Now take a minute and listen to the thoughts passing through your mind. What are they saying? The voice in your head might be comparing the weather at the beach to the current temperature where you live. You may even find that your thoughts begin to go over your bucket list, and that long-overdue trip you’ve wanted to take. Next thing you know your mind has wandered off to many other thoughts.

Now that you’ve witnessed your own thought-stream, let’s shift your attention.

Go back to the beach scene and engage all of your senses. Intentionally shift your attention from your thoughts to your body as you imagine yourself at the beach.

Take a deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Notice anything you observe that you were not aware of a few moments ago.

Notice any body sensations that arise. Scan your body from your head to your toes. What do you sense and feel in your body; not just what you think in your mind.?

You just made a fundamental attention shift from a mind-first to a body-first orientation. The focus of your attention went from thinking about the beach scene to experiencing what you feel when you imagine being on that beach with me. You expanded your experience by engaging with what is happening inside your body in addition to what is going on outside or floating through your mind.

It’s important to note that it isn’t necessary to silence the mind or stop your thoughts to broaden your attention and include what your body is feeling and telling you for more bandwidth to give you information, feedback, and the best direction.

Here’s a very short video that will help you go body first more.

Throughout the day notice:

When I think about _________ I have the following thoughts _________

When I think about ________ and listen to my body I notice and feel ________

For more body awareness tips www.wholebodyintelligence.com


Staying Present and Engaged

Recently, I received an invitation to a birthday party. The invite had the tagline: “Please don’t bring presents. Your presence is a gift.” Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Just show up and be present. I wish it could be that easy. As human beings, we possess a unique and very powerful ability to focus our attention on the present moment and simply be with whatever is before us—a rose, a loved one, a business problem. We’ve all had the experience of getting absorbed when our attention is so focused, so singular that we forget ourselves. The separate self is subsumed in the object of our attention. However, the brilliant human mind also has the ability to focus on events, people, concerns, etc. that are not right in front of us in the moment. We get pulled into the past or future. This ability is essential for planning the future or sorting through the past to share, celebrate, compare, reminisce, evaluate, understand, and many other cognitive functions including learning from the past to avoid making the same mistakes.

This dual function is most certainly a benefit, but it can also work to our detriment. If we are not discerning about how we direct and discipline the miracle of mind, if we let it wander too much, ruminate, get too imaginative or too lazy, the mind can lead us to make bad decisions, insult or disappoint another person, neglect or even hurt our body. At some point, most of us eventually realize that our mind has gone off the rails or down a dead end and we bring ourselves back. Sometimes we wake up with a snap. Sometimes we stop gnawing on whatever we’ve been chewing too late and find that we’ve missed our exit on the freeway or stood up a friend we were scheduled to meet for lunch. A client summed this up when he admitted, “I’m sitting in a meeting, or watching my kid play in a Little League game, but I’m not really there. My mind is so wrapped up in god-knows-what that I am completely zoomed out and out of touch with what’s right in front of me. Sometimes I feel like the walking dead.”

He’s not alone. We have slowly but surely given up or been conditioned out of full engagement with the present. Some of us are more involved with our smart phones than with real, live, flesh-and-blood people. And when the mind is hyper-stimulated, it seeks more stimulation. Too often, our addiction to technology steers us toward devices and distractions rather than people or important tasks at hand.

No doubt, you can relate. Who hasn’t sat at their desk working on the computer while their mind wanders off, perhaps planning a summer vacation, or considering restaurant options for dinner, or worrying about the kids, the remodel, the dentist bills—the list is endless.

The solution is to exercise presence on an ongoing basis, to stay engagedwith the here and now. Of course, you will continue to drift off on occasion, likely daily. What can be different going forward is adopting a new, exciting engagement with your body. This ability will become an asset. You will be able to steer your attention back to the present and focus on what’s most important and most real.

Today I offer you a 90 second video to kick off your day or recharge it with a mindful. moment exercise. Enjoy the moment and your presence!

Mindful Moment - Breathing

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